Impostor Syndrome: Feeling Like a Fraud Despite Your Success (Therapy practice in Paris 10 - for Expats)

You've just been promoted, praised, recognized — and yet, a small voice whispers that it's all a mistake. That others will eventually figure it out. That you didn't really deserve any of it. If this feels familiar, you're not alone: this is what's known as impostor syndrome.

What is impostor syndrome?

The term was introduced in 1978 by psychologists Pauline Clance and Suzanne Imes to describe a paradoxical phenomenon: people who are objectively competent and accomplished, yet unable to internalize their own success. They attribute their achievements to luck, favorable circumstances, or a good impression they managed to give — never truly to their own merit.

This isn't false modesty. It's a deeply held, often painful conviction of being out of step with the image others have of you.

How does it show up?

Impostor syndrome can take many different forms depending on the person:

• A constant fear of being "found out"

• An inability to enjoy success (immediately minimizing it)

• Overworking to compensate for a feeling of not being good enough

• Difficulty delegating or asking for help (for fear of exposing one's "gaps")

• Performance anxiety that grows as responsibilities increase

Who does it affect?

Contrary to what one might expect, it's often the most accomplished people who suffer the most. Studies suggest that up to 70% of individuals experience it at some point in their lives — and disproportionately so among people who are in the minority in their professional environment, perfectionists, and those who grew up in settings where their worth was tied to their performance.

It is particularly common during transitions: a promotion, a career change, an ambitious new project, a professional pivot.

Where does this feeling of being a fraud come from?

The roots are often found in personal history. A family environment with very high expectations — or conversely, very little encouragement. Messages that tied self-worth to achievement: "You're only good when you succeed." Constant comparisons with siblings or peers.

In some cases, it can also reflect a painful internalization of external stereotypes: the idea that "people like me" aren't supposed to be here, in this role, at this level.

What can therapy offer?

Therapy doesn't aim to eliminate ambition or humility — these can be valuable qualities. Rather, it helps dismantle the belief that your worth depends on your performance. To draw a distinction between what you do and what you are.

Gradually, you learn to take in positive feedback, to fully own your achievements, and to navigate moments of uncertainty without being overwhelmed by the fear of judgment.

The goal is to feel legitimate — not by proving yourself more, but by stopping the self-doubt.

Do you recognize yourself in this article? I offer a supportive and confidential space, in Paris 10th or via teleconsultation.